Frequently, a person with this kind of problem will notice feeling uneasy when doing or even thinking about doing certain activities - talking to a group of people, or being in a confrontation situation, for example. This automatic stress or fight/flight response has behind it certain patterns of thought which are an additional problem, and the sufferer may or may not be aware of this.

Causing these thoughts is the likely next level of the problem, which is the beliefs - often unspoken and unacknowledged - which a person has about him/herself and the world. Examples would be "I am inferior", or "I will never be acceptable", or "people always dislike me, even if they don't always show it", for example.

These beliefs have been learned at some time in the past, usually during childhood, and the level behind the beliefs is the memory (which may be out of conscious awareness) of the original learning experiences. Sometimes an angry parent or schoolteacher may have told the child that (s)he will never succeed at anything. A further level of the problem can be that, because a person has always 'known' they could not do it, (s)he has only rarely practiced that behavior, and as a result may not have the repertoire of social skills (s)he needs to perform well in that situation.

The complex structure of low self-confidence leads many sufferers, who have tried and failed to deal with the problem themselves, to decide that there is nothing that can be done. This belief is usually mistaken, and there is real hope for those who seek it. It is commonplace for this kind of problem to be totally relieved by therapy here piece by piece.

Self-confidence is knowing that you have the ability to do whatever you want to do and really doing it. Imagine being able to set a worthy goal and knowing you will achieve and and then achieving it. Our program at Hypnotherapy for living lets you understand the blocks that have been in your way of having all the self-confidence you want. After 3 - 5 sessions you will find yourself achieving more of what you want and feeling better about yourself.